the sudden, suffocating fear that your partner or best friend will look at you and realize you are a fraud who doesn't know how to love or be loved properly

The Light Does Not Scan For Credentials

The house is quiet now, and the mask you wore all day is finally coming off. You are terrified that the person who loves you most will look closely enough to see the fraud beneath the performance.

You brace for the moment they realize you do not know how to love or be loved. But listen — the light does not scan for credentials.

It does not require you to be an expert in affection before it stays. There is a love that started with God, not with you.

You did not have to earn the right to be held. The light reached for you first.

And if the source of all love chose you before you knew how to choose back, your awkwardness cannot break the connection. The fear says you must be perfect to remain.

The truth says you are already known, and still, the door is open. The light does not leave when the performance ends.

Drawing from

1 John, John

Verses

1 John 4:10, 1 John 4:19

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