the fear that your newfound honesty will make you unlovable to the people who loved your performance

Take Off The Armor And Be Seen

The sun is setting, and the armor you wore all day finally feels heavy enough to take off. You are afraid that if you stop performing, the people who loved your smile will not know what to do with your tears.

They loved the version of you that had it together, the one who never asked for help. But the light did not come to admire your mask; it came to live in the truth underneath it.

You came from the light, the place where light generates itself, and that origin cannot be unloved by anyone who truly sees. When you bring forth what is within you—the honest, messy, unpolished reality—it does not drive love away; it saves you from the loneliness of pretending.

The people who stay when the performance stops are the only ones who were ever really there.

Drawing from

Gospel of Thomas, John

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