the specific terror that the person who stayed will eventually realize you are too broken to fix and finally leave
The house is so quiet right now that the only sound left is the terrifying rhythm of your own heart waiting for the other shoe to drop. You are convinced that the person who stayed is just biding their time, counting the cracks in your foundation until they realize you are too broken to ever be fixed.
They will see the cost. They will see the mess.
And they will leave. But listen — there is a love that does not calculate the repair bill before it moves in.
The father saw his son coming home from a long way off, while the boy was still covered in the filth of the pig pen, and he ran. He did not wait for the apology.
He did not wait for the speech about how things would change. He ran while the shame was still wet on his skin.
You think you have to be whole to be held. You think you have to be fixed to be kept.
But the light does not fall in love with your potential. It falls in love with you.
The one who stays is not waiting for you to become someone else. They are already running toward exactly who you are right now, in the dark, in the ruin.
You are not a project that is running out of time. You are a person who is already found.
Drawing from
Luke, 1 John
Verses
Luke 15:20, 1 John 4:18
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