the fear that your child has learned to hide their true self from you to keep the peace

Waiting in the Room With Your Child

The house is quiet now, but your heart is loud with the fear that your child has learned to hide their true self just to keep the peace. You wonder if the silence in their room is safety, or if it is a wall they built because they think you cannot handle the real them.

There was a moment when Jesus saw Nathanael before they ever met — seeing the person beneath the performance before a word was spoken. That same sight lives in you now.

The light does not need your child to be perfect; it only needs them to be known. If your heart condemns you for not seeing sooner, remember this: the love inside you is greater than your fear, and it knows everything.

You do not have to force the door open. You only have to sit in the room and wait, letting your presence say what words cannot: nothing they hide could ever make you turn away.

Drawing from

John 1:48, 1 John 3:19-20

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