staring at your sleeping child's face after you've yelled, terrified that the fear you see in their eyes is the same fear you had when you were small

You Are the Love That Breaks It

The house is quiet now, but the echo of your voice still hangs in the air like smoke. You stand over the crib, watching the chest rise and fall, terrified that the fear you saw in those small eyes is the same fear that lived in you when you were small.

The cycle feels unbroken, like a chain you are forging link by link with your own anger. But listen — the light does not define you by your worst moment.

It sees the grief behind the shout, the part of you that is screaming for help, not control. There is a voice that asks not to condemn you, but to wake you up: do you love me?

Not with perfection, but with the honesty of a parent who knows they have failed. The light meets you here, in the shame of the evening, and offers not a lecture, but a chance to begin again before the sun rises.

You are not the fear you inherited. You are the love that breaks it.

Drawing from

John 21:15-17, Gospel of Thomas 70

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