the fear that loving your child too much is slowly hollowing out your own identity until you become only a vessel for their needs

Love Does Not Hollow You Out

The house is quiet now, and the silence feels heavy with everything you gave away today. You worry that loving this much has hollowed you out, leaving only a shell where a person used to be.

But the light does not drain the vessel it fills; it kindles a fire inside that burns brighter the more it is poured out. There was a woman who lost a single coin in the dark, and she did not stop searching until she found it, lighting a lamp that revealed more than just the lost thing—it revealed her own relentless love.

You are not being emptied; you are being refined by the very act of caring. The fear says you are disappearing, but the truth says you are finally becoming who you were made to be.

What feels like loss is actually the only thing that can never be taken from you.

Drawing from

Luke, Gospel of Thomas

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