the terrifying suspicion that your boundaries are actually selfishness and that saying no makes you a bad person

Guarding the Lamp So It Does Not Go Out

The house is quiet now, and the only voice loud enough to reach you is the one calling your boundary a sin. It whispers that saying no is the same as turning your back on love.

That protecting your own small, trembling space is selfishness in disguise. But listen — the light that lives inside you did not come from a place of scarcity.

You came from the light, the place where the light came into being on its own accord. It is self-generating.

It does not need to be drained dry to prove it is real. When you say no, you are not closing a door against the world.

You are guarding the one thing you were sent here to carry. The boundary is not a wall.

It is the vessel that holds the lamp steady so it does not go out.

Drawing from

Gospel of Thomas, John

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