the moment your child flinches when you reach out to hug them

Love Is Keeping Your Hand Open

The day is ending, and the armor you wore to survive it is finally coming off. You reach out to hold the one you love, and they flinch.

In that split second, your heart breaks all over again. You wonder if the damage is too deep, if your hands are now only associated with the storm.

But the light does not recoil when you pull back. It waits.

It knows that fear is a reflex, not a verdict. The flinch is the echo of what happened to them, not a rejection of who you are becoming.

You do not have to force the embrace tonight. Just sit nearby.

Let your presence be the quiet proof that you are no longer the danger they remember. The light is patient enough to wait for the muscle to unclench.

Love is not the absence of the flinch; it is the willingness to keep your hand open after it happens.

Drawing from

1 John 4:18, Luke 24:13-35

Verses

1 John 4:18

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