the fear that remembering them means forgetting how they felt

Love Remains When You Let Go

The day is ending, and the armor you wore for twelve hours is finally hitting the floor. You are tired.

But in this quiet, a new fear rises: if I let myself rest, if I let the sharp edges of the grief soften, will I lose them? Will forgetting the pain mean forgetting how they felt?

You hold the ache like a holy object, terrified that releasing the weight is a betrayal of their memory. But listen — the light does not ask you to carry the wound to prove you loved them.

There was a woman who wept at the feet of the light, pouring out her most precious oil, her tears falling without measure. She did not hold back her grief to make it last longer.

She poured it out. And the light did not say she had forgotten.

He said her great love was shown in the letting go. The memory of them is not stored in your exhaustion.

It is written in the light that lives inside you — the same light that held them when they were here. You can put the burden down.

The love remains.

Drawing from

Luke, Gospel of Mary

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