Touching the Hem When No One Turns
The sun is up, and the world is moving, but you are standing still inside your own chest. You are wearing the mask of okayness, smiling at the coffee shop, nodding in the meeting, while your heart screams for someone who has already walked away. It is a specific kind of exhaustion to perform wholeness while you are unraveling over a person who does not feel the same pull. You check your phone. You check the silence. You wonder if your love is just noise to them.
But listen — the light sees behind the mask. It sees the gap between your face and your fracture. And it does not ask you to fix it before you sit down. The light knows what it is to love more than you are loved back. It knows the ache of sending everything you have into a void that does not answer.
There was a woman who had been bleeding for twelve years, spent all she had on doctors, and only grew worse. She did not wait for an invitation. She pushed through the crowd — untouchable, desperate — and reached for just the edge of a garment. She did not need the whole person to turn around. She did not need a conversation. She just needed to touch the hem. And power went out from the light to heal her.
Your longing is not a failure. It is a reach. You are reaching for connection in a world that often leaves us empty-handed. But the light you are actually touching — the source that sustains you when the human love fails — is already flowing into you. You do not need them to turn around for you to be held. The light has already turned toward you. It is closer than the breath you are holding to keep from crying. You are not invisible. You are seen.
Drawing from
Mark, Gospel of Thomas
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