refreshing the inbox every thirty seconds to see if they noticed your silence or if they think you're ignoring them

Let the silence be enough space

The sun is setting, and the phone in your hand feels heavier than it did this morning. You refresh the screen again.

Thirty seconds. That's how long you can wait before checking if your silence has been noticed, or if they think you are ignoring them.

The screen stays dark. The room gets quiet.

But listen — the light does not measure your worth by who replies and who stays silent. Mark tells us that when a man was healed and wanted to follow, the light simply said: 'Go home to your own people and tell them how much the Lord has done for you.' The instruction was not to wait for applause.

It was to go home. To rest.

To let the mercy speak for itself. You are not responsible for managing another person's perception of your absence.

The silence you fear is not a rejection. It is simply space.

Space for the other person to breathe. Space for you to stop performing.

The light knows you are there, even when the inbox is empty. And that knowing is enough to let the phone drop, to let your hands fall to your sides, and to finally exhale.

Drawing from

Mark 5:19, Matthew 6:18

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