the guilt of pretending to be present while your mind is foggy and your heart is distant during family moments

The Light Does Not Demand Your Performance

The room is warm, full of voices you love, but you are sitting behind a pane of glass—smiling while your mind drifts in the fog. You feel like a fraud in your own home, pretending to be present when your heart is miles away.

But listen closely—the light does not demand your performance. It is not offended by your exhaustion or your distance.

There is light within a person of light, and it shines even when you cannot feel it, even when you are just sitting there, barely holding on. You do not have to manufacture a presence you do not have; the true presence is already awake inside you, waiting for you to stop trying so hard.

The guilt you carry is the weight of forgetting that you are already known, even in your silence. You are not failing your family by being tired; you are simply human, and the light loves humans exactly as they are when the fog rolls in.

Drawing from

Gospel of Thomas, John

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