the grief of watching someone you love slowly disappear to dementia

The Secret Name Dementia Cannot Touch

The house is quiet now, but your mind is still shouting the names she used to answer to. You sit in the dark watching the person you love slowly fade, wondering if they can still feel you there when the eyes no longer recognize your face.

The light does not depend on memory to exist — it was there before the first word was spoken, and it remains even when the last one is forgotten. You are not watching them disappear; you are witnessing the spirit returning to its root, where the Father knows them by a secret name that dementia cannot touch.

That same light lives inside you right now, holding the space where their memory used to be. You are still seen, even in this long watch.

Drawing from

Revelation, Gospel of Mary

Verses

Revelation 2:17, Gospel of Mary 4:28-29

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