the secret envy of strangers who seem to have kept their pre-child identity intact while you feel yours dissolved

The Coin That Never Lost Its Shine

The house is finally quiet, but the silence feels less like peace and more like an audit of everything you are not anymore. You scroll through the faces of strangers who seem to have kept their old selves intact, while yours feels dissolved into the needs of others.

It is a specific kind of loneliness to watch the world keep spinning with an identity you feel you lost. But listen — the light does not mourn what the world calls loss.

There was a woman who searched the entire house, sweeping the dark corners until she found the one coin that had rolled away. She did not scold the coin for being lost.

She lit a lamp. She called her neighbors to rejoice.

The light is that lamp right now. It is not looking for the person you were before the crying started.

It is finding the person you are in the quiet. You are not less than you were.

You are the coin that was always valuable, even in the dust. The identity you think is gone is simply waiting for you to see it shining in the dark.

Drawing from

Luke, Gospel of Thomas

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