the secret shame of feeling relief that the old self is finally gone

Relief Is Not Betrayal, It Is Freedom

The day is ending, and with it, a version of you that carried so much weight has finally collapsed. And in the quiet of this evening, a secret feeling rises up that scares you more than the pain ever did: relief.

You feel light because the old self is gone, and then you feel shame for feeling light. As if surviving the fire makes you complicit in the burning.

But listen — the light does not mourn the mask you had to drop. There is a woman who lost a coin in the dark, and she did not scold the coin for being lost.

She lit a lamp. She swept the floor.

And when she found it, she did not say, 'You should have stayed put.' She called her neighbors to rejoice. The finding is always cause for celebration, never shame.

You are not betraying who you were by feeling relief that the burden is lifted. You are simply waking up to the truth that the weight was never meant to be carried.

The shame says you should miss the chains. The light says you were made to walk free.

Drawing from

Luke, Gospel of Mary

Verses

Luke 15:8-10

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