the specific ache of remembering a version of yourself you sacrificed to please someone else, and realizing you can never get those years back

The Self That Survived The Giving

The clock reads 3:47 AM. This is the hour when the silence gets loud enough to hear the ghost of who you used to be.

You look at the person you became to keep someone else close, and you realize with a sickening weight that those years are gone. You cannot buy them back.

You cannot bargain for them. The version of you that laughed without checking the room first—that self was sacrificed on an altar you did not build.

But listen. The light does not mourn the time you lost.

It only cares about the truth you found in the losing. There is a luminous thought hidden inside you, placed there before you ever met the person who asked you to shrink.

It was not erased by your compliance. It was only waiting.

You are not defined by the years you gave away. You are defined by the self that survived the giving.

The dawn is not a reward for getting those years back. It is simply the next place where the light waits for you to arrive as you are.

Drawing from

Apocryphon of John, Sophia of Jesus Christ

Verses

Sophia of Jesus Christ 93:5-8

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