loving someone who is destroying themselves

The Lamp Lit While They Wander

The afternoon stretches long when you are watching someone you love walk toward a cliff. You carry the weight of their choices while they stumble forward, and you wonder if your love is enough to stop the fall.

It feels like the middle of a story that has no end, where every step they take breaks something in you. But the light does not force the door open; it stands outside and waits.

You cannot drag them into the safety you see. You can only be the one who stays, the one who keeps the lamp lit while they wander.

The love you hold is not a chain to bind them, but a thread that survives the dark. You are not responsible for their awakening, only for your own faithfulness in the waiting.

Drawing from

Revelation, Gospel of Thomas

Verses

Revelation 3:20

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