You Do Not Have to Carry the Face
The afternoon stretches long and flat, a gray middle where the mind fills with noise just to survive the hours. And then it happens—a sudden, sharp panic when you realize you haven't thought of their face for an entire hour.
You fear that this forgetting is the final death, that the memory is slipping away like water through cracked fingers. But listen.
The light does not live in your ability to hold on. It lives in what holds you.
There is a presence that knows the name of the one you lost better than you ever could. You do not have to carry the face to keep the love alive.
The connection is not your burden to maintain. Bring forth what is within you—the grief, the panic, the raw truth—and let it save you from the lie that you must remember perfectly to love at all.
The light was there before the memory, and it will be there after the image fades.
Drawing from
Gospel of Thomas, Mark
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