You Were Never Meant to Hold It All
You are holding up the roof of your world with shoulders that have long since begun to shake. The terror is not that you are tired, but that if you finally lay down the weight, the whole structure will crash down on the people you love.
So you stay standing. You stay exhausted.
You become the pillar that cannot bend. But a pillar that never rests is not a foundation; it is a fracture waiting to happen.
There was a man by a pool who had been waiting for thirty-eight years, convinced that unless he moved first, unless he fought his way to the water, he would be left behind forever. He thought his survival depended on his own striving.
The light did not ask him to prove he could walk before offering help. It simply asked: do you want to get well?
It did not demand that he hold himself up first. It told him to stand up precisely because he could not.
The light does not need you to collapse the family to save you; it needs you to stop pretending you are the only thing holding it together. The structure was never yours to carry alone.
Drawing from
John 5:6-8, Gospel of Thomas 70
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