the shame of flinching when someone reaches out to hold your hand

Your Flinch Is Not Your Final Answer

Tonight, the house is quiet enough to hear the echo of your own flinch. Someone reached out—a hand offered in kindness, in love, in simple presence—and you pulled away before you even knew you were doing it.

Now the shame sits heavy in your chest, whispering that you are broken beyond repair, that you are too damaged to be held. But listen closely.

The light does not recoil from your reflex. It does not take your flinching as a rejection of itself.

There is a story of a woman who washed feet with her tears, and the voice that spoke to her did not scold her trembling; it said her great love had shown. Your flinch is not your final answer.

It is just the old armor doing what it was built to do—protecting a wound that is already healing. The light within you is not afraid of your reflexes.

It is the place where the armor can finally rust. You do not have to force your hand to stay still tonight.

You only have to stop condemning yourself for shaking.

Drawing from

Luke 7:47, Gospel of Thomas 70

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