the shame of feeling relief when you finally stop trying to care

Relief Is Not A Failure Of Love

The sun has gone down, and the weight of the day is finally lifting from your shoulders. You stopped trying to fix it.

You stopped trying to care quite so much. And in that silence, a dangerous thing happened: you felt relief.

Now the shame creeps in, whispering that your relief means you have given up, that you are cold or broken. But listen closely.

There was a moment when the light itself felt overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death, asking for the cup to pass. Even the light knew what it felt like to be too tired to carry the world.

Your relief is not a failure of love. It is the sound of the armor hitting the floor.

The truth that lives inside you knows you are not abandoning anyone by finally resting. You are simply making space for a love that does not require your exhaustion to survive.

Drawing from

Matthew 26:38-39, Gospel of Mary 5:4-5

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