the panic of realizing your new boundaries will look like betrayal to the people who loved your old compliance

The Light Behind Your New Edges

The morning light hits the window and suddenly your new boundaries look like betrayal to the people who loved your old compliance. They call it selfishness because they miss the version of you that had no edges.

But the light does not ask you to be soft enough to be shaped by everyone else's hands. There is something inside you waiting to be brought forth, and if you do not bring it out, the silence will destroy you.

The panic you feel is not a sign you are wrong; it is the friction of an old mask cracking open. What you bring forth will save you, even if it costs you the approval of the crowd.

You are not losing your love for them; you are finally finding your love for yourself.

Drawing from

Gospel of Thomas, Matthew

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