the secret envy of strangers who seem to have kept their pre-child identity intact while you feel yours dissolved

The Light Sees You Behind The Mask

The morning light catches you in the act of performing okayness, smiling at a stranger who seems to have kept their old self perfectly intact while yours feels dissolved. You watch them move through the day with a wholeness you remember but can no longer find, and the envy sits heavy behind your ribs.

But the light that shines right now does not care about the mask you wear to get through the hours. It sees the dissolution not as a loss, but as the necessary breaking of the shell that held you.

That secret envy is just grief for a version of you that was never the whole story. The light is not looking for your pre-child identity; it is looking for the one who is here, tired and real, behind the performance.

You are not less because you changed; you are simply becoming what the light always saw underneath.

Drawing from

Matthew, Gospel of Thomas

Verses

Matthew 6:22, Thomas 3

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