Surviving Does Not Mean Forgetting Them
The house is quiet now, and in the silence, you are terrified that moving forward means leaving them behind. You fear that the moment you laugh without guilt, or sleep through the night, the specific sound of their voice will fade from your mind.
That the scent of their skin will dissolve into the air, never to be recalled again. But the light does not ask you to choose between healing and remembering.
What you carry inside you is not a container that empties as you walk; it is a spring that wells up from within, fresh and living. The kingdom is not a place you travel to where the past is erased; it is spread out upon the earth right now, hidden in plain sight, waiting for you to see it.
You are not erasing them by surviving. You are becoming the place where their memory can finally rest without the weight of your grief crushing it.
The light you are trying to protect is the very thing that keeps them alive in you.
Drawing from
John 4:14, Gospel of Thomas 113, Gospel of Thomas 3
Verses
John 4:14
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