the quiet terror that your child's silence is actually a sign they no longer trust you to be strong enough to hold their pain

You Do Not Have To Be Unbreakable

The house is loud with the silence of a child who has decided you are too fragile to hold their breaking. You wear the mask of okayness because you fear that if you crumble, they will have nowhere to stand.

But listen — the light did not come to you as a performance of strength. It came as a presence that weeps with you.

There was a man born blind, and the disciples asked whose sin caused it. The light answered: neither.

The blindness was not a punishment; it was a canvas. Your child's silence is not a verdict on your failure.

It is the space where the light is about to do something new. You do not have to be the unbreakable wall.

You only have to be the honest ground. Sit with them in the mess.

Let them see you tremble. The light shines brightest not through your armor, but through the cracks where your humanity lets it out.

Drawing from

John 9:1-7, Gospel of Thomas 50

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