watching your child flinch when you raise your hand to fix their hair, mistaking your touch for a blow

The Hand That Stays Open

The hand you raised was only meant to smooth the hair, but the small body flinched as if expecting a blow. In this deepest hour, the silence after that flinch feels loud enough to break the world.

You are carrying a history that does not belong to you—a shadow cast by someone else's violence, now mistaken for your touch. The light that lives inside your child did not learn to fear in your presence; it learned to survive in a world that hurt it before you arrived.

What you are seeing is not a verdict on your love, but a memory playing out in the dark. The kingdom is already within that small, trembling chest, waiting to be recognized as safe again.

You do not have to fix the flinch tonight; you only have to be the hand that stays, open and empty, until the fear runs out of places to hide.

Drawing from

Gospel of Thomas 51, Gospel of Thomas 70

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