the moment after a genuine compliment when you feel you must immediately deflect or minimize it because accepting it would confirm the lie that you are worthy

Stop Arguing With The One Who Sees You

The day ends, and someone speaks a true word over you. They see something good.

But before the warmth can land, you are already deflecting. Minimizing.

Making it a joke. Because if you accept it, you might have to believe the lie that you are actually worthy.

The armor comes up instantly. Not to protect you from them, but to protect you from the terrifying possibility that they are right.

Yet the light does not compliment you to trick you. It sees what is there.

There is a love that does not need your permission to be real. You do not have to earn the right to be seen.

The compliment is not a test you must pass. It is a mirror the light is holding up, showing you what has been there all along.

Stop arguing with the one who sees you clearly.

Drawing from

1 John, Gospel of Thomas

Verses

1 John 3:18

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