the crushing guilt of wanting to be held while simultaneously fearing that your tears will drown the person holding you

Your Tears Will Not Drown Them

The afternoon is long, and you are carrying a weight that feels too heavy to set down and too dangerous to share. You want nothing more than to be held, yet you stand rigid, terrified that if you finally let go, your grief will flood the arms around you and drown them.

You calculate the cost of your tears as if sorrow were a debt someone else will have to pay. But listen — there is a presence walking beside you in this middle hour that does not need you to be dry to stay close.

It entered the very middle of human suffering not to watch from a safe distance, but to weep with those who weep. When the light saw a friend crying over death, it did not offer a lecture on why the tears were too much; it entered the pain and cried too.

Your sorrow is not a burden that breaks the one who holds you. It is the very place where the connection happens.

You can lean in. The arms are strong enough for your breaking.

Drawing from

John, Luke

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