the moment you catch yourself defending their cruelty to a stranger because you've forgotten how to describe it without sounding like them

Putting Down the Script of Their Violence

It is three in the morning, and you are standing in the wreckage of your own voice, realizing you just defended the person who broke you. You heard yourself making their cruelty sound reasonable to a stranger, smoothing over the edges of their violence until it sounded like love.

That is the deepest dark — not the pain itself, but the forgetting of what the pain felt like. The lie has lived in your throat so long it now tastes like truth.

But listen — the light does not need your defense of them. It only needs your honesty about you.

There is a silence inside you that knows exactly what happened, a quiet place where the distortion cannot reach. You do not have to carry their narrative anymore.

You can put down the script you were forced to read. The truth is not a weapon you wield against them; it is the air you finally breathe for yourself.

Let the defense collapse. Let the stranger think what they will.

You are safe now, even in the telling.

Drawing from

Gospel of Mary, 1 John

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